Saturday, April 6, 2013

Book Review: Woman At War

I met Jan at a Panda Express in Southlake, TX in the spring of 2008.

I'd actually called my friend Elisa and asked if she wanted to grab lunch as I was in her area.

She responded "I just arrived at Panda Express with my friend, Jan. Come join us!"

Elisa had just started a new job at Gateway Church working in the women's ministry department. I should have realized she'd be eating with someone who was ALSO in the women's department. But not realizing Jan was a women's pastor, my mouth got the better of me when she said to me "since Elisa is now working in women's dept, will you be a part?"

I responded with a very emphatic: "Ha! I don't do women's ministry."

THAT is how I met Jan Greenwood.

Jan responded with an ever so kind "oh honey. I believe you do."

As I sit here and even type the above story, I can't help but smile to myself. Ok, scratch that. I'm grinning like a cheshire cat.

Women's ministry in a church.

In 2008- my view of 'women's ministry' meant you were the ministry that threw the baby showers, wedding showers, and were the ones designated to child care.

Women's events at church meant tea parties. It meant skirts and dresses, but modest ones, by golly. It meant lace and pink tulle on the tables. It meant dainty. And friends, I'm anything but dainty.

I will never forget our first meeting as Jan spoke to me that day about my destiny, my calling, and about my future. And she didn't speak casually. She spoke with such strong authority, but covered in kindness. Meeting someone for the first time and having them speak to you about...well, yourself, in such a way might scare some people off, but the words she spoke resonated with me and I was drawn to her immediately. Jan Greenwood was someone I needed to spend more time with.

Here we are 5 years later and my dear friend Jan releases a book this month titled "Women At War." (First of all, does that sound dainty to you? :-) Not so much!)

In this book she shares things learned that have transformed her from "a wounded, isolated woman into a staunch supporter of women becoming everything God has called them to be through the power of healthy female relationships."

The phrase "healthy female relationships"... it's bound to conjure up strong emotions in you. You either know the power of healthy female relationships and your heart is overwhelmed with gratitude just THINKING about the women in your life, or you laugh and say "what a joke."

Have you been hurt by close girl friends? This book is for you. 

When we’ve been hurt, it’s a natural tendency of self-preservation to stay away from anyone who might cause us more pain. As a result, we sometimes forfeit the very relationships that could help us grow strong and whole.

You will not be able to truly overcome your past pain until you dare to be- gin again. In order to grow strong, you have to take back what has been stolen from you. You have to begin cultivating something different in the place of your wounding. If you’re ready to make some real friends, you’re going to have to change your mind about your methods of relating to women and take a risk. You’ll need to step out into some scary territory. Yes, you could get hurt. You might be rejected. Someone may touch an old wound. You’ll probably feel uncomfortable, but the results will be well worth the cost. 
Jan Greenwood, Women at War 

If you think it's impossible to have healthy female relationships, this book is for you. 

Better yet, if you have amazing healthy relationships with other women in your life, this book is for you too.   

Bottom line, if you are a female- this book is for you. Jan Greenwood is a woman who has the ability to speak into difficult areas of my life with such tenderness. She speaks out of experience, out of compassion, and out of love. Pick up this book. Even reading it this last week has made me realize she not only has the ability to speak in this way, but to write in this way as well. 

Women at War. You're one of them. Find out what she has to say. 


  1. Loved reading about your meeting Jan for the first time. :)

    This book is also changing my heart toward to women in my life. Thank you for sharing about it!

    Blessings, Kristin

    1. Thanks for reading the post, Kristin! I'm so pumped about this book. And meeting Jan was a game-changer for me! :-)


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