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Food For Thought

I just tweeted the following statement:

"In my opinion, a guy saying on his match.com profile that he wants a skinny girl is the equivalent of a girl saying she wants a guy that makes 6 figures."

This may seem like a male-bashing post...And maybe I'm just in the mood to do just that....or maybe I've just come across a perfect way to express my feelings in regards to the whole subject.

Guys. If you make 40K, 50K, or even 80K- would you prefer that we discount you? Would you prefer that we make the assumption that you are not working hard enough? That you are lazy? That you don't have self-discipline? Would you want us to disregard you and your efforts if you didn't measure up to the 100K salary line?

In the same way, I know plenty of girls (myself included) who work out 4-6 times a week, eat healthy, make conscious efforts to he the healthiest that she can be but might not measure up to the standards the world/media has set. If she doesn't measure up to your idea of 'slender'....should she be dismissed and looked over?

Food for thought.

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  1. iconmasterFebruary 23, 2012 at 2:20 PM

    It's not something you're supposed to admit to, but those guys are just being honest -- as would be any woman who admits she's hoping for a wealthy man.

    Incidentally, the female side of this equation bothers me more. Physical attraction at least has a direct bearing on aspects of the marital relationship; whereas once the income is sufficient to provide ongoing stability and avoid financial stress it's difficult to understand what all that money is for. (Kids' college? I don't pretend to know the minds of single women.)

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  2. minda312February 23, 2012 at 2:34 PM

    @Iconmaster- interesting.

    You don't think financial issues have more direct bearing on aspects of marital relationship? Stats say that most marriages that end in divorce are in direct relationship to financial issues.

    And I'm being 'honest' when I say- I'd much rather have a man that is hard working, respected, and self disciplined making $50K than a man who's making 100K that others see as lazy or disrespectful, or even lacking self discipline.

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  3. iconmasterFebruary 23, 2012 at 2:37 PM

    Finance has a bearing, of course. That's why I mentioned financial stress. My point was beyond a certain threshold (depending on cost of living and a host of factors) it's no longer about that.

    But you could argue that beyond a certain threshold of attractiveness it's no longer about having a healthy marriage, but having a trophy.

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